As a note to that last post, I have like 50 first cousins (not counting their children), so it would be more statistically unlikely if there was only one queer in the bunch.
There’s probably more than one other one, I don’t keep in touch with all of them.
being the trans nonbinary non-monogamous bisexual cousin is a lot different from being the gay cousin
my married cis lesbian cousin looks way more normal by comparison to me
I think Amazon is learning my weaknesses.
The good news is Yahoo is still clueless XD
There’s no actual neat correlation between how much a trans person is the binary gender different from their birth assignment and their physical dysphoria
A person can have severe physical dysphoria who would otherwise be okay living as a cis person of their sex assigned at birth, a person can have a very, very strong self concept and knowledge that they are the other binary gender or a nonbinary gender(s) with little or no physical dysphoria.
It’s not like there’s a neatly matching continuum where really binary trans men and trans women have the most physical dysphoria and nonbinary people or even people close to the boundary lines between cis and trans have the least.
My physical dysphoria doesn’t make me more of a man than a trans man who doesn’t have physical dysphoria. I’m not a man, a trans man who doesn’t want top surgery, hormones, etc. is still a man. Desire for a medical or “physical” transition doesn’t make someone more or less nonbinary or more or less a man or woman. (It’s also interesting how physical dysphorias are often ranked in these discussions).
When truscum use “non-dysphoric” as a stand in form nonbinary, genderqueer, not a man/not a woman, they are attacking nonbinary people in general, because this conflation is rooted in the notion that nonbinary genders are less real and that nonbinary people are essentially partial trans men/trans women or “halfway between cis and trans man/trans woman” (some people’s genders fit that description and that’s an okay way for them to be, but it isn’t a majority of nonbinary people).
And almost no one steps up to defend “non-op” binary trans people in a lot of these fights because 1)many trans communities have already been shitting on those people for a long time and 2)they don’t want to consider binary trans people being put up to this same scrutiny and 3) they don’t want to treat nonbinary genders as as valid as man or woman and treat our internal self concepts of our gender as just as real as internal self concepts of man/woman.
There’s a complicated array of physical dysphoria, social dysphoria, internal self concept, experiences, etc., not some simple continuum between non-dysphoric to dysphoric and cis to binary trans.
Where are these “hostile towards Christians” queer groups I keep hearing about? Find them for me, I want to join the anti-Christian atheist queer groups.
I keep getting like a hot toe wtf is that about just one of my big toes and half the second toe feel like they’re hot af for like 2 seconds and then stop as suddenly and mysteriously as they started it’s been happening all day what does it mean am I going to die
If it hurts when it’s hot, it could be gout (pain and heat in big toe is common) or high uric acid due to other reasons. Low vitamin B12 can cause high uric acid (I’ve had high uric acid as a result of B12 deficiency before).
You’re a character in a high fantasy setting. You could spend most of your youth learning magic. You could trade away your soul for magic.
Or you could be an awesome warrior with great abs and cool looking scars. Kill a wizard. Eat his heart. Now you’re a warrior with nerd powers. Basically Goku.
I love mages.
Maybe because I’m physically inept and like old musty books so I can empathize.
That’s probably why mages are popular with nerds.
Gray-aromantic here: having an aromantic identity means constantly noticing how you don't fit. How people wonder what's wrong with you for not dating, not marrying. How all media displays romance as the highest thing in life, and you don't fit. So... yup. Pretty sure aromantic heterosexuals are allowed to be queer.
this is pretty much the answer to all the questions asking me how aromantic people are oppressed.
Only the groups targeted by a slur gets to reclaim that slur-and cis aromantic heterosexuals are not targeted with the slur “queer” or queerphobia in general. Aromantic heterosexuals have hetero privilege and queer and trans people have every right to be suspicious and pissed off when heteroromantic asexuals or aromantic heterosexuals appropriate queer spaces and use slurs they shouldn’t. Not all asexuals are cishets, but those that are need to recognize they don’t have any special right to queer spaces or language or to queer people’s time. This reminds me of when some cishet kinky people tried claiming they could use queer. Just..no.
I can hear my mother out in the living room telling my brother that I don’t have the right to be angry, to refuse to do things for her, or to ask for things because saying “without me [they] would be homeless].
My family is evil and I hate them
[Tw: animal abuse/animal cruelty, animal death, abuse, verbal abuse]
People who follow me on twitter know that on Wednesday night we found a small kitten (about two and a half weeks old) that had some sort of skin infection. I wanted to take care of it myself, but my mother forbid me, yelled at me, and refused to even drive me up the hill so I could make sure it was okay for the evening. I thought the kitten might die if left in the care of my sisters because the older one has a history of animal neglect (some of her pets have starved before) and the younger one is generally incompetent at animal care. But I hoped it would live and that I could bring it back down here tonight when my mother leaves (she’s going on vacation with her boyfriend),
The next morning when I woke up though they told me the kitten was dead. I figured it died due to lack of proper care but today I learned they outright killed it. They murdered a little kitten because they didn’t want to put the work into taking care of it even though I would have done it. And when I got angry and upset, my mother screamed at me to get over it and to stop being overemotional.
I’m so furious and disgusted at all of them. I hate my family and I hate this house. The only ones that weren’t involved with this were the kids, the rest of my family is monsters. I wish I could leave but I don’t have any options right now at all. How am I supposed to live with them after this though? I feel horrible and upset and trapped.
That poor little thing, I feel so guilty and they all don’t care.
I’m curious as to whether there’s ever a non-victim blaming use of the phrase “victim mentality”.
I think it says a lot about how people view victims and their humanity and worth that they focus them as “wallowing” in the violations against them instead of focusing on stopping violations and punishing those doing the damage. There is also the massive, massive issue of western patriarchy’s loathing of weakness and things coded as weak. If might makes right, then pointing out how others use their might/social power to hurt you makes you the bad one.
The only context in which I can think of people legitimately misusing seeing themselves as the victim is when they aren’t actually the victim (or when they are using it against other more stigmatized victims).